Fruit For Thought: Marriage Talk

So while I can be a funny, sarcastic, and usually exceptional cook (not to toot my own horn but TOOT TOOT). I also can have real moments, deep thoughtful talks with myself and God. I have been married for almost 6 months. While I know that doesn't make me a Marriage Pro, or something of that sort it does mean I have fresh eyes to this thing called Forever Love.
    I had the amazing ability to catch up with a friend from college who herself just got married about 2 months ago, we were talking about those beginning months to marriage and the new things you learn, the mistakes you make and the safeguards you build to help your marriage and to help each other. When it occurred to me something deep and something profound. Part of a healthy marriage is healthy communication, its actually a really big part. It's not just communicating your "I love you's" but its also communicating the "Your bothering Me" that occurs.
     Usually as a response to being bothered with our spouse we tell them (sometimes in a very inclined voice) and storm off to tell mom, dad, friends, anyone who will justify our feelings and our hurt. However when we do this, we do something very unhealthy to our marriage. We take our private and very intimate bond of Husband, Wife and God, and invite everyone into it, where does the marriage go then? Today we have people who forget what marriage began to be, what marriage was intended for, and this may be a very forward thought process for someone who just started a blog yesterday but I am going to say it. Marriage in its definition truly is a bond and promise you make with each other before God that your giving each other your forever, and keeping God the center of that. That was the original reasoning behind marriage, not so you can receive government benefits, or to be able to have rights to each others things, it was originated through the church (which have we ever heard of separation of church and state?).

So I guess what I am trying to say is, next time you get into an argument, or a disagreement or have hurt feelings take it to each other before God.